20 February 2026
Negotiation. That word alone can make your stomach do somersaults, right? Especially when you're walking into a negotiation knowing full well you’re not holding most of the cards. Maybe it’s a job offer you really want. Or maybe you’re a small business trying to land a deal with a big-time client. Either way, being the "weaker" party can feel like being the mouse trying to negotiate with the cat.
But here's the good news: having less power doesn’t mean you’re powerless.
In fact, some of the best negotiators know that leverage isn’t always about size or position. Sometimes, it’s about strategy, mindset, and preparation.
In this article, we’ll walk through how to negotiate when you're not in the driver’s seat, without giving everything away. Buckle up, grab a cup of coffee (or tea), and let’s dive in.
But remember, power is perception. And perception can be influenced.
People with more perceived power often play confidently, but that doesn’t mean they’re invincible. Many times, they’re just better at hiding their insecurities. When you understand what makes them tick, you can level the playing field (or at least tilt it slightly in your favor).
Remember: Negotiation isn’t about winning or losing. It’s about reaching a deal that works for both sides.
If you’re walking into a negotiation with fewer resources or less leverage, your best defense (and offense) is preparation.
Knowing the facts gives you confidence. It’s hard to argue with data, and even harder to manipulate someone who knows their stuff.
Think of it as bringing a flashlight into a dark room—you don’t have to be the biggest person there, but you’ll see things a lot more clearly.
Why is this important?
Because when you have a solid BATNA, you feel less desperate. And desperate negotiators give away too much, too fast.
Even if your BATNA isn’t amazing, having something in your back pocket gives you grounding. It says to the other party, “Hey, I'm not completely out of options.”
And that subtle confidence? It works wonders.
Negotiation becomes less of a tug-of-war and more of a puzzle when both sides care about solving it together.
When you ask thoughtful, open-ended questions, you subtly take control. You uncover valuable info AND make the other party do the talking.
It’s like playing detective. But instead of solving a crime, you’re solving how to come out with a better deal.
That silence? That’s power.
Hesitate before responding. Let their words hang in the air. Often, the other party will fill the silence by offering more information—or even making concessions.
Silence shows confidence. And when you’re the underdog, that kind of confident energy speaks louder than words.
The key is to frame your value in a way that speaks to their needs.
Then speak THEIR language. Focus less on what you do and more on how it benefits THEM.
You're not selling yourself. You’re offering a solution wrapped in a relationship.
When you have less power, it’s tempting to give in. To lower your price. To say "yes" just to keep the deal alive.
Don’t.
Instead, treat concessions like currency. If you’re going to give up something, ask for something in return:
- “I can lower the price if we extend the contract to 12 months.”
- “If I include this feature, would you be able to move forward today?”
- “I’m happy to accommodate that request if we can revisit the payment terms.”
This shows you’re flexible but not a pushover.
If they're rushed to close the deal, they’ll be more open to compromise. On the flip side, don’t let them rush you. If they apply pressure to make a quick decision, push back—nicely but firmly.
Say something like:
> "I want to make sure we get this right. Would you mind if I took a day or two to review the details?"
Slowing things down gives you time to strategize—and keeps you from making emotional decisions.
If you fear anchoring because you have less power, think again.
Coming in first can actually help you avoid being lowballed. And if you’ve done your research (which you have, right?), your number will be informed, not random.
Just make sure to leave room for negotiation. Don’t pin yourself in a corner.
But sometimes, walking away is the most powerful thing you can do.
Why? Because it shows you have standards. It shows you’re not so desperate that you’ll accept just anything.
And guess what? Sometimes, walking away makes them come back with a better offer. Happens more than you'd think.
So negotiate your phone bill. Ask for a discount at your local gym. Offer a lower rate for that freelance gig.
Get comfortable with the uncomfortable. The more you do it, the less scary it becomes.
Remember: You don’t need to be the strongest player to play a strong game. Confidence, clarity, and strategy win more negotiations than brute force ever will.
So the next time you walk into a negotiation and feel like the underdog, smile. Because underdogs have one big advantage:
They have nothing to lose—and everything to gain.
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NegotiationAuthor:
Remington McClain